Monday, February 13, 2012

This morning, I went to the website for Dreamscapes, a Canadian travel and lifestyles magazine for which I wrote a food article in September, and there it was in the winter/spring 2012 issue! My piece is on sustainability in farming and fishing. Here's the link to my piece directly: http://magazine.dreamscapes.ca/RIDE/viewer.aspx?id=13&pageId=1&lang=&lid=0 and here's the link to the current issue of the magazine: http://magazine.dreamscapes.ca/default.aspx?bhcp=1

My first novel, Under the Linden Tree, is soon to be released by EnCompass Editions in print and e-book format!


Bio:
A freelance writer of features and essays since 1991, I've been leading writing groups, formally and informally, since 1998. I have published short fiction in Philadelphia Stories, and memoir in Parlor Journal, the latter piece nominated for a Pushcart Prize. With an MFA in Creative Writing from Rosemont College, I teach freshman composition at Drexel University, Saint Joseph's University, do private one-on-one consultation with adult writers. My historical novel, Under the Linden Tree, has been published by Encompass Editions, and has won its 2009 Novel of Promise Award.

Thursday, June 16, 2011

In 2002, Joe and I took our first hike along the White Mountains (New Hampshire) portion of the Appalachian Trail. I was terrified, even though I'd done some gym work to get myself in some sort of shape to climb. It proved helpful that I had an article to write for a lifestyle magazine, the simple act of which helped to motivate me. What followed that hike was a series of annual treks with our kids who love the gratification of stunning vistas and delicious meals served by the AMC huts' gregarious"Cru." If you click on this link, you'll read about the first climb. I hope you'll try it too!

http://www.healinglifestyles.com/index.php/sep2003-retreatandrenew-findingstrength

Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Lovesick (Published in Philadelphia Stories, June 2006)
by Casey (Cassandra) Krivy Hirsch

The summer she and I were twelve, Alexandra Metcalf became my best friend only hours after she moved onto our block. I was sitting on my front stoop, hugging my knees, listening to the bees’ late summer panic as my parents carted sod back and forth. They were planting the evergreen that would eventually tower over the house, and surrounding it with chrysanthemums. Alexandra’s blond head bobbed past our honeysuckle hedge and she stopped to wave at me as if she weren’t thinking twice about it.

We swam like minnows in the pool in Alexandra’s back yard every day that first week. On the first day, I learned to dive, crouching low, peering at my reflection peering back at me, then meeting the surface with a bruising splash. There was nothing dainty about my dives. Alexandra’s were practically swan-perfect, her rounder thighs catching the sunlight, shaming me in my own bony frame.

"Let’s play shark," she said one day, a hiss of authority behind her voice that upended my will, a will only practiced on my parents until then. Her china-blue eyes were round with eagerness, her teeth bared. "You be the lady swimming at the beach and I’ll slowly swim near you, kind of tap you like this.” She nudged my leg and I flinched as if a real shark had nosed me. "Then you scream, as loud as you can, and I’ll pop out of the water and catch you and drag you under. Okay?"

"What if you hold me there too long?" I glanced at Mr. and Mrs. Metcalf, poolside, both of them reading magazines. Alexandra’s sister, Michele, who was about to start her sophomore year of high school, was stretched out on a chaise, tanning. Her skin was already brown. I could see the faintest shocking white line gleaming at her hip.

"I wouldn’t dare!" Alexandra screeched, as if offended that I suspected her of this. "C’mon, Carrie, grab the side and just kick your feet a little." She paddled backwards to the middle, her eyes fixed on me, then took a deep, silent breath and went down.

I clung to the side, waiting. It was taking her longer than I expected. Michele turned onto her back. From just below the blue tile lip of the pool, I watched, mesmerized, as she slathered a dollop of sun block onto each of her long legs and began massaging it into one of them in long, deliberate strokes.

"Gotcha!" Alexandra yelled, surfacing next to me. "Didn’t you feel me touching your leg?"

My gut lurched.

“I guess not,” I said. “You really took your time."

“The element of surprise. Daddy says there’s an art to it. Isn’t that right, Daddy?”

"That’s right," Mr. Metcalf said, eyes closed, one arm slung across his forehead.

I played the game again, doing it the way Alexandra wanted to, waiting with my back turned and my attention riveted on her stealthy approach from behind. I was truly terrified, the delight of it squirreling up my chest and into my throat as I sensed her coming nearer. I turned in time to see her head charging forward, leaving a cleft in her wake that, for a split second, made me think she was a real shark. Before she could grab hold of my legs, I scrambled out of the pool. When she burst from the water, bewildered, and saw where I was, she let her arms splash back in and she arched into an effortless backward somersault.

"You’re hopeless," she laughed, coming up for air, spitting water in a neat fountain far ahead of her.

Michele didn’t like to swim. She lay still, glistening as Mrs. Metcalf read her magazine, nodding and clucking under a white straw hat.

“Watch this,” Alexandra whispered.

Like a rotor, she spun herself into a frenzied whirl, arms in the air until she lowered one into the pool and splashed a cascade of water directly on her sister.

Her sister screamed, livid, and grabbed the towel from her chaise.

“You little brat!” Michele shrieked, grabbing a towel and curling into a ball as if traumatized.

Ignoring her daughters, Mrs. Metcalf absently patted the few drops that had landed on her, but Mr. Metcalf strode over to the pool. Clad in a tight piece of spandex, he was a full, slender head taller than my stocky father and seemed to tower over us.

“You know better than that, Alexandra.” His voice was deep and full of quiet condemnation.

“It’s no big deal,” Alexandra said. “You’re in your swimsuits.”

“We don’t play those games in our family,” Mr. Metcalf said. “Do that again, and you’ll go straight to your room.”

When he turned his back on us, Alexandra looked at me. Her mouth was cockeyed, and her eyes rolled toward her father. I jumped back in, and we ducked our heads and blew bubbles to keep from laughing out loud.

When we came up for air, Michele and Mr. Metcalf were walking back into the house, and Mrs. Metcalf had risen from her chaise. She was a tall, broad-shouldered woman who, under her livid rouge and brown eye shadow, was paler than milk, even in the sun.

“Would you minnows like some dinner?” she asked.

Alexandra nodded and looked to me to see if I’d stay.

“I guess I should call home first,” I said.

“Then call,” Alexandra said.

“And just so you know, Carrie, you’re always welcome in our home.”

“Thank you, Mrs. Metcalf,” I said.

Shivering, I got out of the pool and picked up the cordless phone, my movements jerky from the cold stiffening my bones. As I called home, I watched Alexandra doing dolphin dives in the water and knew then, not just from watching her move but from a growing intimate knowledge of my own uncooperative body, that I was Alexandra’s complete physical opposite: my straight brown hair hung just above my shoulders, my teeth jutted from my face. Thankfully, we were both flat-chested.

**

When swimming got old, we did gymnastics on my back lawn. I admired Alexandra’s perfect cartwheels and long-held handstands even as I thudded onto my back, sending the wind gusting up and out of my chest. My mother flitted near the kitchen window, applauding us both, but Alexandra was too busy spinning and springing along the grass to notice.

She’d never taken lessons.

She was a self-taught acrobat, fearless and airborne.

And when she watched me walk, Alexandra couldn’t help but offer instruction.

“You always look like you’re about to bend, Carrie,” she said one afternoon as I sauntered over to a silver maple to investigate a fallen bird’s nest. “My mother says you should straighten up or you’ll get a hunchback by the time you’re thirty.”

“She said that about me?”

“Not you. People.”

Alexandra stood by my side and told me to look straight ahead. I did as she said, and my eyes started aching.

“Good,” she said. “Now tuck in your butt, bring your shoulders back, and push your chest out a little.”

I obeyed, and it felt good for about ten seconds.

“Don’t worry,” Alexandra said as my shoulders started to fall. “You’ll get used to it.”

When she wasn’t looking, I preferred the comfort of slouching.

**

At home, Alexandra was all I could talk about. My new friend had a collection of China dolls, I told my mother as she chopped vegetables in the kitchen. And each doll had a different dress, and each dress was a different color. The dresses were made of real silk, I added when my mother remained unimpressed, and in addition to the China dolls, Alexandra also had a collection of crystal animals from Prague .

“You have your own collection,” my mother said.

“Spoons,” I said. “Stupid spoons.”

“They’re not stupid,” my mother said. “And you’ll appreciate them when you’re older.”

The collection had been mine for as long as I could remember, and for as long as I could remember, my mother had been telling me that I’d appreciate my blossoming set of sterling silver flatware when I was older. At the time, however, I couldn’t imagine sharing my plain yet elegant spoons with Alexandra. Her love for showy things kept me from pulling the heavy wooden case from my mother’s closet and explaining the history behind each piece of sterling it contained. Born out of thin air with a history that had surely started and ended with her parents, Alexandra could only be bored to tears by stories of my grandmother and my Polish great-aunt and great-uncle—now long dead, all contributors to this collection in honor of my birth.

“I want something I can show off now,” I muttered, scorning a legacy I knew was precious. “I’m going to Alexandra’s.”

“No you’re not,” my mother said. She’d finished with the vegetables and had begun splitting chicken legs from thighs. “I need you to help with dinner.”

“Mom.”

The sickening sound of moist bones breaking was enough to make me wish I were a vegetarian just like Alexandra and her big sister, Michele.

“Good God, Carrie, you practically live there,” my mother said. “Why don’t you spend some time with your own family for a change?”

“I wish I had a sister,” I mumbled, though I wanted much more than that.

I wanted to be someone else.

“You can see Alexandra after dinner,” my mother said, turning to face me, one hand on her hip. “Besides, if she really wanted to see you, she’d call or come knocking once in a while, don’t you think?”

I hadn’t thought of that. I took for granted, as I should have, that Alexandra would be around forever.

**

The first time I ate dinner at the Metcalfs’ house I was dazzled and sickened all at once. They drank buttermilk out of wineglasses. I hated milk and one look at the thick yellowish liquid clinging to the inside of the glass closed my gullet. But I always said yes when it was offered because it seemed so elegant and strange. At my house, I avoided milk and drank juice from jelly glasses my mother picked up at yard sales.

It was clear to both of us that we preferred her house with the pool and fewer rules. There was also the occasional chance to spy on Michele who looked at her body in the tall oval-shaped swivel mirror, cupping and holding the plum-like roundness of her breasts. Through the keyhole, we took turns peering in as she scowled at her reflection, reaching languidly for her robe, covering herself. I couldn’t think why she looked so angry, and wished my body would open up like hers, my sharp edges soften into curves. I still marvel that she had no idea her keyhole afforded such a perfect view.

Whenever she came across us while we played dress-up with Wally, their fat orange cat, I stared at her polished toes, afraid I might fasten my gaze on her nipples because they always seemed to poke out past her bra like tiny, fat buttons.

“If that cat has any brains, he’ll run far away from here one day,” Michele said one afternoon. She had come downstairs to flip on the T.V. “The way you dress him up like that, it’s a disgrace to cats everywhere.”

“He’s my cat, so I can do what I want,” Alexandra said. “Right, Carrie?”

I looked up at Michele, and she smirked at the two of us as if she knew something we could never understand. Then she turned off the television, wheeled around and delicately climbed the stairs without waiting for me to prove my loyalty to her sister.

“She’s mental,” Alexandra said, glowering, when Michele was gone. “She dresses Wally up, too, when she’s not busy looking at herself.”

I didn’t know whether or not to believe this, the improbability of a girl like Michele playing dress-up with anything at all except herself. Part of my fascination with Alexandra and her family was with their glamorous boredom. They never seemed to need to be busy; their languor was an activity. The effortless way they moved through their house and around each other, their striking looks, distracted me from Alexandra’s bull’s eye accuracy of reducing me to the smallest version of myself simply by being who she was, someone I loved instantly without wanting to admit soon after that I sometimes hated her.

**

One Sunday afternoon, the last before we returned to school, I was alone at Alexandra’s. She had to leave for a piano lesson and, though I wasn’t asked along when the time arrived for her to go, I was invited to stay in the house.

“You can lie on my bed if you want or read something. I have the whole Bobsy Twins, series,” Alexandra said. “But just be really careful about the shelves,” she warned.

At first, I lay down on her bed, and the whisper of her pink cotton coverlet sent up a perfume I couldn’t place, except that all of her clothes smelled like this bedspread. Mine smelled bleachy and over clean. The door to her room was closed and the house was quiet as I looked around, my head perfectly still on the pink and white gingham sham, its plumpness keeping it that way.

Alexandra’s China dolls filled one tall pink wicker bookshelf, and the tiny crystal animal figurines filled another one. Everything on those shelves was sacred. Even Alexandra refused to touch her treasures. She’d already lost one in a pillow fight, and she was so terrified that another one, which had been knocked askew in the same fight, would fall as well, and she wouldn’t even let her mother right it in case it toppled. So there it stood, teetering on the verge of certain doom.

Alexandra and her mother were taking a long time. I had fallen asleep and, jerking awake ten minutes later as the clock radio blinked the lost minutes back at me, I wondered if they’d forgotten I was still there, waiting. Not that I minded too much. It was enough to lie there and pretend it all belonged to me.

I rolled off the bed and padded over on bare feet to peer at the row of crystal animals lined up at eye level, each one different. A giraffe standing next to a lion that was curled up beside an elephant. All the rest behind them were dogs and cats. The sunlight streaming in through Alexandra’s bedroom window bounced off the giraffe and onto the floor in a colorful pool of light. Slowly, my hand steadier than I knew it could be, I took the luminous giraffe and gingerly held it, arcing it through the shaft of light and down, bewitched by the rainbow spilling across the pine planks under my feet.

Just as I finished counting the colors, I started again, sure there were more than my eye could see, but I’d barely begun my second count when I heard crying. Creeping to the door, I opened it slightly until I realized that the crying was coming from the next room.

“You know better than that, Michele,” a man’s voice said, deep and even. “We don’t cry in this house.”

And then Mr. Metcalf was standing in the hallway, in front of me. His frown reversed almost too fast for me to have seen it and he smiled.

“I had no idea you were here, Carrie. Where’s Alexandra? Did she go off and leave you here to fend for yourself?”

I nodded, mute, my palm suddenly empty. We both looked down and saw the giraffe at my feet, snapped cleanly in two.

“Mrs. Metcalf said I could stay if I wanted,” I managed to say.

“Fair enough. Why don’t you join me downstairs for some milk and cookies?”

“What about Michele?” I asked. “Will she be coming, too?”

His smile vanished. He looked at me as if I’d insulted him.

“No,” he muttered. “She’s not feeling well.”

When he turned to go downstairs, I pocketed the two pieces, then followed.

“Have a seat, m’lady,” he said, gesturing with a flourish to a dining room chair. Then he went into the kitchen and came out with a goblet of buttermilk, which he placed before me, and a plate of cookies that wasn’t sweet enough to smother the taste of the milk that Mr. Metcalf seemed intent to have me drink, one agonizing sip at a time.

He said nothing as he watched me choke it down. With Wally purring on his lap, he began to ask me meaningless questions.

“Carrie, are you happy to be returning to school? It’s not long now.”

I shook my head, my lips pasted together.

“I’ve heard the school here is very big. Very good, but very big. Do you think you and Alexandra will have any classes together?”

“I don’t know,” I mumbled, tonguing the cookie into my cheek.

At that moment, Alexandra and her mother breezed in the door, Mrs. Metcalf chirping, “Darlings, we’re home!”

As if wound from behind, I took my empty plate and unfinished milk to the sink and scurried off with Alexandra, the giraffe’s head and body in my shorts pocket.

**

That afternoon, back at my own house helping my mother prepare dinner, I knew I had to tell Alexandra what I’d done. Her father had seen the murdered giraffe.

Gathering my nerve, I went back to their house, the pink and purple creeping into the sky before sunset almost displacing the terror I felt from my scalp down to my feet.

When I knocked on the door, Michele answered.

“How’re you feeling?” I asked, nudging one sandaled foot against the other.

She eyed me for a heartbeat. “Fine,” she said. Her voice fell flat between us. “Why wouldn’t I be?”

I didn’t have an answer.

“I guess you’re looking for Alex,” she said, opening the door wide. “She’s downstairs torturing Wally.”

The one time I’d tried to suggest that Wally might not be having such a great time, Alexandra had said that I was being ridiculous. Cats had no idea whether they were having a good time or not. Besides, Wally was her cat, and I could go home if I didn’t like dressing him up.

Stung by her words but unwilling to be chased away, I stayed on and helped her lace the dresses over his fat, furry stomach and truss the tops of his paws into the tiny booties. This time, however, Alexandra looked up at me, and I thought she understood why I’d come.

I knelt next to her and picked up a piece of doll’s clothing, tracing the eyelet at the hem, embroidered with green petals. Alexandra had a dress just like it in her own size.

“Wally looks nice,” I said. “Like he’s going to a party or something.”

Alexandra was silent.

“Is he?” I said. “Going to a party?”

“Wally doesn’t like parties. We both hate crowds.”

“Then maybe for a walk? Maybe we can take him in the stroller. It’s pretty outside, with the sun about to set.”

I hated how Wally looked, but for the first time, I didn’t want to be in the house any longer than I had to be.

Still not looking at me, Alexandra gathered Wally into her arms and placed him in the stroller, his hind legs poking up, his front paws bound too tightly in ruffled sleeves and slippers for him to fight even if he wanted to.

Once outside, we walked together back toward my house and past it into the park that led toward the school. I started to worry about whether I should bother with any of this—with a confession, with a decision. And I worried, too, that if there was any decision to be made, no matter what I would say, it might not belong to me, that it might be out of my hands altogether.

“So, what’d you do while I was out at piano?” Alexandra asked. “Did you get to read?”

“No,” I said, the fingernails of one hand clamped between my teeth. “I think I fell asleep.”

Alexandra laughed. It was an adult laugh, the kind I’d heard from my mother once or twice, and it made me wonder what kind of emotion could can produce such a mirthless sound.

“I wanted to ask you something,” I said before I really wanted to. I hadn’t planned to ask her anything. But the will I’d abandoned when Alexandra first bobbed into my life was beginning to right itself, stretching, as if roused from sleep.

She stopped the stroller and turned to face me.

I looked at the ground, knowing I had to go forward. “Do your parents—?”

“What? Love us?”

Alexandra spit out the word like a curse, and it dovetailed with all that I knew about her: that she would be a friend I could always count on to put me in a place that would suit our friendship best, even if it hurt her to have me there. It would be a place where I could not hope to be allowed to love my new friend in the way everyone should be loved.

“That’s not what I meant,” I said, ripping off my cuticles and staring back at her.

“Then what did you mean?”

“I don’t know,” I said.

But in a way that terrified me more than what I was sure of, I really did.

I knew exactly what I meant.

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

EXCITING NEWS:

My novel-in-progress, Seagoing Vessels, has been given the
2009 Novel of Promise Award
by
Ocean Cooperative Publishing
www.oceancooperative.com
On this site you'll find an interview between Robert Buckland and myself
as well as an excerpt from my novel.
Please visit the site and tell me what you think!

A Visit to Macedonia on the Way to Paris

By Cassandra Hirsch


We were far from Paris, sitting at the gate in Philadelphia’s airport waiting for our flight to board for Dulles in D.C. and onward to Charles de Gaulle. Reading, I left the page often to see what was going on around me. People had begun to board and a few feet in front of me was a young woman, heavy-set, with long brown hair, hugging an older woman whom I presumed was her mother. The older one turned away and walked through the gate, leaving her daughter in tears, leaving her to look long after she had disappeared down the concourse to the plane, the young woman’s stare so intent on the walls that swallowed her mother whole, it was as if she could see through it or will her mother to turn around. After a few minutes, still crying, she turned and left.


It was our turn not long after and, once on the plane, I saw that my husband and I were seated across the aisle from each other. I looked at the woman seated by the window with an available seat beside her and recognized her as the mother I’d been watching say goodbye to her daughter. Of the two I could have chosen, I chose this seat, with Joe in the single one across from me.


The woman didn’t respond to the usual prompts by the flight attendants to fasten our seatbelts and look at the emergency procedure card and we were already coasting slowly toward the runway. I pointed to the seatbelt and she looked at me, confused, before she opened her mouth and began speaking in a language I didn’t understand. She didn’t know how to fasten the belt. So, I did it. She said, “Macedonia” and smiled, as did I, which made her smile more, nodding as if that would take care of everything, as if now that I knew where she was from and her native language we could begin conversing.


The plane sat on the runway for a half-hour. The woman was going home and when we took off, she crossed herself several times and murmured a prayer. I turned to her afterward and waved out the window, saying, “Goodbye, Philadelphia!” and we both found that amusing, more so when I pointed out the window at the shrinking skyline and showed her with my hands how tiny everything was becoming. She nodded and laughed, then gripped my knee and didn’t let go for some time. I was afraid to uncross my legs, not because I feared anything improper would happen, but I worried it would upset her if I shifted, upset her trust in me.


Because clearly she did trust me. Perhaps I flattered myself, but having just left her daughter, it occurred to me from the moment I chose the seat that I knew I could help her and, in doing so, help her daughter. I knew it as soon as I saw her, when I recognized her features as those, much younger, in her daughter’s face. Simply sitting next to the old woman would have done nothing and before she opened her mouth to speak what at first I thought was Italian (speakers of Macedonian might laugh at that mistake), I had no clue that there might be this barrier between us. Yet, what was clear early on was that there was only a small one. Language proved to be an insignificant obstacle to what, in the end, we did accomplish.


The woman was a nervous flyer, praying demonstratively on take off and waving her hands a little as if to scatter the words of her prayer around her. I touched her shoulder in thanks then and pointed out the window at the blanket of clouds we were flying over, a sight that clearly terrified and thrilled her and she crossed herself again, three times.


What stays with me is her face, so close to mine on that crowded little aircraft that I could see the cross-hatching of her deeply tanned skin. With her cropped white hair and bright eyes, it was impossible to tell if she was 65 or 85. Her smile was ready, even with a lingering regret behind it from either a life lived or a daughter left.


As the plane descended, she began her prayers again and placed her hand back on my knee until we were on the ground. When we landed in D.C. and stood to de-plane, she handed me her bag to hold while she finessed herself from our snug fit and, taking it back, went before me. Her legs were bowed and thick as trunks, moving only by the force of her will. I couldn’t let her continue alone and looked at my husband, conveying a message. Just wait for me. I need to do this. He had little other choice.


I flagged an airport employee and explained to him, motioning to the woman so she would understand what I was doing, that she needed a wheelchair and he brought one out immediately, telling me he would take her to her gate. Momentarily lost myself, I hugged her and she held on a moment. Then I walked away toward my husband, toward Paris.


(Note: In the fall of 2009, this will be published in the Drexel University 33rd Anthology, a book of writing by faculty and students and used for teaching purposes).

Sunday, December 07, 2008

Gift Horse

My very own gift horse, filled to the brim, has arrived at my doorstep and I’m looking it full in the maw, daring it to swallow me whole. What self-respecting sentimental mother wouldn’t do the same?

My kids were together for this Thanksgiving. Not unusual, since we always are on this occasion. But the dynamic this year is entirely different; our eldest is a freshman in college and, like so many students streaming home for this holiday, her arrival has been the most eagerly anticipated of any visitor. True, our son, 16, didn’t wear his interest in seeing his sister with the same alacrity as he does a new item from American Eagle, though we know from the occasional changing of the guard standing sentry at his cool exterior that he misses her. It’s our youngest daughter, 12, and openly worshipful of her sister, who counted the days along with me till her big sib crossed the threshold. Never mind that we just went up to Boston to visit her barely a month ago. Gratifying to me is that both our younger children, for very different reasons, enjoy having her around and their demeanor changes for the better when she’s here. They simply argue less, laugh more, and the quibbles over who has or gets what are relatively few.

Recently, I had become better at tuning out the melee that could start with something as simple as one child’s plea to the other to be left alone, a plea that only invited more of the same bothersome behaviors. For sanity’s sake, it became easier to dissociate unless I was pulled in when they couldn’t end it themselves. Naturally, it was worse when they were younger, when each was jealous of the other for myriad reasons, each needing to exact his or her form of justice even it meant simply to be alone, willfully cut off from the other two.

As one of two kids, I recall thinking as I grew up, and then married, that I wanted more than two, that two could sometimes be lonely. My brother and I were different as children, fighting more, then talking less; it was as adults that we discovered a burgeoning friendship based on commonalities and a mutually appreciated sense of humor. Then, in 2004, I lost him and the resulting grief forced my eyes open. Though I try very hard, and mostly successfully, not to remind my own children that they need one another, that they must cherish their siblinghood, I do think it every day. During the uglier of their battles, I often want to scream, ‘why are you wasting this time? Grab on! You just never, ever know.’ To utter these words would only earn me the stare of children certain of their mother’s emotional fragility. They would tiptoe and I don’t want that.

After all, what children don’t home in on their siblings’ tender spots? The savage name-calling, the unauthorized borrowing, and so much of the jealousy of what seems to them at particular times to be an imbalance in the way they are raised and given privileges are all part of what kept unarticulated treaties between them short, lacking in conviction; so often, such treaties were based on tentative understanding of the facts, either those issued by us - ‘you’re 6 and your sister was 8 when she got her ears pierced. It won’t be long’ or ‘we didn’t take your brother to his first R-rated movie at 10 years old, so we’re not going to take you either,’ a statement that didn’t reveal just who did take him – or anything revealed in the glee of the moment.

That moment came on Black Friday and nourished the one tiny shoot of resentment to bloom over this past Thanksgiving holiday. We’d been shopping; brimming like a cauldron of good will and optimism, pride in my growing children and my new job, I took them to a prime suburban shopping area and let them go realistically wild. At one point, my youngest daughter heard me let slip, ‘I really like those Uggs; think I might get myself some soon.’ Of course, she heard the permissive lilt in my voice and took her own opening. ‘Maybe I can get them for Hannukah? My feet have stopped growing, I’m sure.’ That’s been the proviso. I gave her hope, describing how grandparents and parents could give them to her as a collective gift. Moments later, in a shop with her older sibs, she told her beloved older sister what she might get. She didn’t say it with a provocative, ‘guess what I’m getting;’ it was more matter-of-fact and, yes, a little gleeful. My eldest daughter, an Uggs wearer for the past year, who thirsted for them for twice that long before they came her way, gave me a chilly stare. ‘I’m 18 and she’s 12. Why is she getting them now?’ I had to give her the feet-have-stopped-growing alibi and the response was a shake of the head that connoted full resignation to what she has come to regard as the injustice revealed in how her younger sibs have benefited from privileges it took her far longer to earn – and only because she’s the eldest. (In my weaker moments, I fall prey to guilt over this truth.)
When we returned home from the shopping trip, I listened to my kids laugh and joke, just as I’ve been doing for the past several days. Driving, I let myself reflect on the way my younger two kids are getting along, hanging out together in their basement rec room watching movies. And I recalled an earlier conversation with my youngest. She had remarked just the other day, holding back her own conviction that it might remain consistent, that she and her brother are starting to be friendlier now that their sister is away. And they are; they kick a soccer ball around in the basement and when we took them to a French film (her first, his second) the other week, after it had ended, he gave her an encouraging nudge and the two shared some pride in being able to handle the challenge of watching a very different kind of film. With the same swell in my chest, I watch my son and older daughter, how he towers over her petite frame, looking himself like a college sophomore, and I feel my throat tighten around a memory: like them, my brother who was younger than I by 22 months, looked like my older sib when we were teenagers. I loved it when people pointed it out as they do to my older kids, how they, too, seem to enjoy the switch in physical dynamics.

Cooking on that Friday afternoon, post-shopping, for a gathering of my husband’s siblings, their kids, and some of our friends, I couldn’t have articulated it, but my joy was palpable. Though I miss my brother every single day, struck blunt force now and then with new grief, it’s the knowledge that my kids are growing not just up, but together, that put a spring in my step as the music played and I chopped vegetables, careful not to slice my finger, willing the gift horse closer.

Friday, June 27, 2008

The Blurry Realm

It’s official. I’ve become a writer who, in the process of writing and researching, has blurred the line between fact and fiction.

We’ve come back to Rockport, MA where my novel is set. Since our last visit, I’ve completed two drafts and I’m now fully in the revision process which also means I’m headlong into research which, of course, warrants a visit to the place of inspiration.

And, of course, the moment we turned from the main road, 128 North, onto Route 127 that leads into Rockport, I was pitched into the Blurry Realm. Then, when we walked into the Inn where I’ve set my novel, the innkeepers, Tobey and John Shepherd, held out their arms to me and said, “Welcome Home!” My husband, too, was visibly pleased that we’ve come back. It was a moment incomparable to others I’ve experienced with each return trip to this house and this village, for with each visit here I’ve felt myself enter a kind of dizzy space wherein the characters I’ve created and the days through which they move in this house and this town have taken on very real lives and merged with my present day reality. This re-entry feels very different. For one thing, I’ve toted the hefty draft of my novel, dog-eared in places that need further research, and for another, I’ve finished graduate school, resolved to complete the book’s revisions this summer and send it to agents. It has a beginning, middle, and an end and needs work, absolutely, but it’s a book and it lives and breathes with characters I’ve created out of this house in a time I’ve never lived, in a language that feels frighteningly easy for me to use, with feelings very near the surface.

So, today, sitting in the parlor, a place I use often in my story, I’m writing this piece to honor the pleasing space of that Blurry Realm where my mind resides, to welcome the confusion, and turn my thoughts toward the tasks I’ve set for myself for these two days in Rockport. We’ll begin with a drive around the area that I’ve looked at many times but not truly mapped in my head, for writing came before this kind of refinement of detail. Then I’ll spend a couple of hours – for the second time in as many years – at the Sandy Bay Historical Society’s library, just poking around in Rockport’s granite and fishing industry archives, studying journals kept by erstwhile citizens of the village, people who lived in the mid-19th century. I don’t know if the curator I met back in 2006 is still living, one Cynthia Peckham who was descended from so many who settled Sandy Bay (1690-1840) which then became Rockport. I’ve been getting messages from Gwen Stephenson this past week, a most helpful curator herself, which made me wonder about Mrs. Peckham. I also don’t know if the prolific town historian, Eleanor Parsons, is still living. She would be in her mid-90’s and I met her two years earlier as well, sat in her living room and talked about Hannah Jumper who lives and breathes in my novel, too. Mrs. Parsons, possessed, ironically, of the same surname as my protagonist, was a generous help. I must find out if she’s still living even if I don’t meet with her this visit, or ever again. The three books I purchased from her have been an enormous help.

There’s more on my docket, such as a visit to Dogtown Common, a pass by some granite quarries, a cruise around Manchester-by-the-Sea to get a lay of that land because (rather than Newburyport) it’s the place where my heroine was born and where her parents still reside. I want to sit in the Sawyer Free Library, where my novel’s hero, Theodore Abel, was born out of the archives of the pages of a fisheries chronicle and find out what exactly was going on in Rockport in 1855-56, who was the President, and sundry details in the days lived 150 years ago.

I did get caught up in the research two years ago, last time I was here, and promptly suspended that process, knowing that with only half a novel written at the time, all the riveting details I was finding were going to paralyze me. So, I left it and told myself and my husband that research would be the reward of completion, that this visit would be the cap on getting the book written, however much drivel it contained.

And now, here I am, home again, in this parlor, with the entranceway just outside it and the dining room on the opposite side of the front hallway, the sitting/sun room and porch adjacent to it, the kitchen and pantry off the dining room. The cupola, which I visited just last night when we arrived as evening came on, was so familiar to me. When I climbed its narrow staircase from the third floor and from those ogling windows high above so many of the other rooftops in Rockport, I felt the grey sky pressing lightly down on the village, caught the gulls lofting on the breeze, saw that the telescope pointed toward Mill Pond Meadow, a place that figures prominently in my book, and saw the line of the ocean, that Marianne Parsons looks to so often for a sighting of her husband, just to my left. It is a place I know as well in my head as I do in its reality.

Or do I have that backwards?

Wednesday, December 12, 2007

For a visual of some of the things I've posted here about Rockport and its charms:
http://picasaweb.google.com/ckhirsch22/RockportMA
Paste this link into your browser for a little slide show:
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